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Michelle mousdell
Ruby, what can I say she was the best cat, companion and best friend I could ask for. I had her for 19 1/2 years and lost her to mouth cancer. She was in my life longer than she wasn't. She has only been gone 5 days and my heart breaks. I don't know what I'm going to do with out her. I know with time it will ease but for now I needed to share how special and amazing she was.
Claire Hodgson
It’s been two months since our beautiful 8 year old puss was hit by a car. And I write this now on a bad day of missing her. It's turned me upside down and inside out and feel like I’m not moving through it. I’m so shocked by the events, thinking she was savvy living round here being so comfortable with the little circuit. She was an equal member of our family and a constant to our young son. Turns out she was my ‘peace’ more than I ever realised and now I can’t get that back. I truly am bereft and struggle between trying to push it down or it comes flooding out. I hope soon to be able to think of the good memories and enjoy them. Now it is still very sore. She was a shoulder cat. My shoulder. She wanted breakfast on the dining room table and sat with us for my sons every bed and bath time routine. I knew what meow was coming before she made it. Soul cat absolutely.
Syeda KissaAli Gardezi Gardezi
Coco came into my life as a tiny, four-month-old Himalayan kitten—fragile, wide-eyed, and impossibly sweet. From the very beginning, she was more than just a pet. She was my girl, my first child, the little heartbeat that filled my home. Soon after I got her, she was diagnosed with FPV—a deadly virus for a kitten that small. I held her close every night, afraid I’d lose her. But Coco was a fighter. We made it through together, and over time, she turned into a stunning beauty with the softest fur and the gentlest soul. For six years, she was my shadow. She’d curl up beside me, wait at the door when I came home, and talk to me with her expressive meows. She left her little paw prints all over my life—on my clothes, my furniture, and most deeply, on my heart. And then, in a moment it ended. A car hit her. Just like that, she was gone. The silence she left behind is unbearable. I still look for her. Still listen for her steps. It’s hard to breathe in a world she’s no longer part of. People might say, “She was just a cat.” But Coco was so much more. She was my comfort, my joy, my companion. The love we shared was real, deep, and unconditional. Saying goodbye to her is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But I know she felt safe, loved, and adored every single day she was with me. I will carry her in my heart forever.
Hannah Rowland
Today, Tuesday 12 August 2025, I had to say goodbye to my beloved boy, Alfie. Alfie turned 12 in April 2025 and was one of a litter of four who has been in my life since the day he was born. He had a short battle with diabetes, which developed quickly and took hold of his back legs and tendons in a short space of time - the damage was too far gone. We watched him struggle day in, day out with simple movements. He would sit at the bottom of the stairs and meow for me to come and carry him up - which I will miss endlessly. I reflect back and think of him jumping up onto six foot fences, knowing he wasn’t able to be the active, exploring cat he once was. He has left a huge hole in my heart - I’m never going to stop missing him. But I take comfort in knowing I was able to put him out of any kind or pain or discomfort before things progressed for the worse. This doesn’t stop the pain, but we feel pain because we care. My one piece of advice would be to read the many stories on this page - as you are not alone, amongst a community of devoted cat lovers. It certainly gave me comfort to read other’s comments.
Katie Barry
We had to put our cat down 3 days ago after having him for 15 years. Unfortunately, old age got to him and he was in too much pain. Putting him down was the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through. I grew up with Oli and he was my best friend. He was definitely the spotlight in the family and all our lives revolved around him. I miss him so much and sometimes I can still hear him meowing or hear him coming through the cat flap, then I remember he’s not here and it breaks my heart. Even though him being put down was devastating, I rest knowing he had an amazing life and he’s no longer in pain and we were all there with him in his final moments. Things that have helped me cope is looking at old pictures and videos and remembering his little quirks. I will miss you forever Oli. I’m so lucky to have had you for so long and I am glad you can finally rest in peace.
David Molloy
I had Lucy 17 years since she was a kitten, she is last being I’ve unconditionally loved, since having her I’ve lost both my parents and two aunts. I have no children and no one left. Lucy wasn’t always the friendliest of cats, but I loved her unconditionally all the same a bit like a child. The vet call around at home and said she didn’t have many weeks left and we thought the kindest thing to do was to end her suffering now. It’s the first time I’ve been with a living being when they actually died, this was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do and it was heartbreaking. I was so fortunate to be able to be with Lucy at home while the vet did the necessary things to put her to sleep. I loved her so much and I miss her so much. My home is so empty now.
Hannah Jones
We lost our precious boy Sonny, affectionately nicknamed ‘Naughty’, a few days ago. He was only 5 and had a blood clot that caused him leg paralysis and unbearable pain. The trauma of seeing him in agony and having to make the decision to let him go is unbearable. Sonny was our firstborn, and was loved just the same as my human son. No words can even begin to describe the pain I feel when I think about a life without him - everything feels completely meaningless, and wonderful but painful memories are everywhere I look in this house. From the fish toys he’d bring to us crying, to the fur coated desk chair he’d lounge on and the paw prints by the window sill he’d sit at patiently waiting to be let in (rather than using his cat flap!). I pray I’ll be reunited with him one day. For now, my baby, keep sending me signs and strength. I love you so much, Naughty. The only comfort I have is that I know you knew just how loved you were. I’d give anything to have you back, even just for another minute <3
Jessica McArthur
My precious 3 boys where all tragically taken from me by menace drivers I moved house to give them a better life my beautiful king Mac was taken November 24 purr so loud was like a lion 4 months later my side kick Alfie was drastically snatched away from me without a goodbye ,5 months later 01/08/2025 my gizzy the grumps was hit by a car and died in my arms taken his last breath so traumatic to see to see my baby struggle I physically couldn’t do anything for him I am lost without my boys these cats were the last part of me before I was a mum or had any major responsibilities they always brought me back to being just me and I just feel a part of my life has died 9,8,6 years old was no age I am left shattered knowing full well my boys had whole lives ahead of them my soul cats I need you more than you ever knew you held me together on so many hard days you completed me in so many ways that no human could even do, your cuddles your purrs your funny characters and your individual brilliance brought so much happiness to my life and I can never repay you for all the joy you gave me I can’t accept what has happened and I living without you and trying to function without you is so painful how do you mend a broken heart all my love your mummy x x x
Gillian Mack
I lost my darling boy nearly 4 weeks ago. He had kidney disease but suddenly went downhill, we didn't even know he was ill. The vet said it came on very suddenly. We made the decision to let him go. He was my friend amd constant companion for over 10 years. Over the last 4 weeks I am okay but then I burst into tears. Grief can seem like a strange journey but it is healthy. Memorialise your pet and don't be afraid of your emotions. And they really are always with you, in your memories and your feelings for them. Take your time. We are so blessed to have our little companions. I am so comforted my my other younger cat. It's okay to be happy. Don't feel guilty. They loved you as much as you loved them.
Patricia Worby
We lost our beloved Sidney on 28/7/25 aged 15 and a half. He had been struggling with gastrointestinal and dental issues for some time and he was getting weaker and weaker. Although we had maintained him with antibiotics and anti-inflammatory medications for months, he just couldn't fight anymore. We had to make the difficult decision to let him go before his pain and suffering got any worse. It was the most difficult decision of my life, and the most painful loss now, beyond even losing my mum 4 years ago. At least with her she chose when to go. For me the most difficult thing was making that decision for Sidney and though I have no doubt it was the kindest thing, the day you take them to the vet and don't bring them home is the absolute hardest. Be kind to yourself in those dark days afterwards and remember, animals forgive unconditionally. It's only us humans who hold grudges and self-blame. I know if you're reading this and had the same experience or maybe you're contemplating it like I was last weekend, this hopefully will be a comfort. We do the best we can and they can't tell us so we have to take responsibility for that decision. It's our way of returning the love they gave us unconditionally all those years. Thanks Sidney, you were the absolute best friend and loving companion, we are so lost without you.
Jessica Thersby
This week we lost our cat of 19 years. She was run over on our drive and I just can’t move past the fact that she went that way. To live to that age and go like that, it seems so cruel. She was a wonderful girl. She watched me bring home all 3 of my daughters and treat them like kittens. She supervised them when they played out and I believe that she loved us as we loved her. I can’t imagine a day that I don’t go into the kitchen and look down for her. Every shadow makes me forget for a second. I feel so terribly guilty and grief stricken. I hope that an afterlife is real and I can see her again x
Jonathan Berry
Gus, you were an excellent young man. We adopted you and had 13 weeks of job giving you the best life we could. I'm just very sorry that you lived so close to a road. I'm sorry that you had to pass in such a horrible way. I know you are in a good place now and thank you for all of the joy and love you brought us. You will always be in my heart and you will always be loved. I'll see you again my friend.
Rocky Siu
I adopted Suzie when she was 16 years old. She had spent four quiet months in the shelter, often overlooked because of her age. But from the moment I brought her home, she settled in completely. She became my first pet, my quiet roommate, and unexpectedly, my best friend. Suzie was gentle and reserved. She purred on her first night with me, never scratched, never hissed. She offered love in a calm and quiet way. She cuddled next to me every night, greeted me when I came home, and filled my space with warmth. Just last week, everything changed. After a small fall, she began losing strength, sight and became disoriented. What was first believed to be age-related decline turned out to be something far more serious. Multiple vet visits later, we discovered she had advanced lymphoma that had spread throughout her body. Her decline was quick. She stopped eating and began hiding in dark corners. She no longer purred. She seemed lost, tired, and ready to rest. Hence I chose not to prolong her suffering. I held her in my arms during her final moments. For a cat who never liked being held, she let me hold her the whole time. She knew I was there. Saying goodbye was one of the hardest things I have ever done. The silence in my home feels heavy. But I know she was loved. I gave her the best final months I could. She waited for me to come home before letting go. If you are facing a similar decision, I hope you find comfort in knowing that giving them peace can be the kindest choice. Suzie gave me her whole heart. Letting her go was how I returned the love.
Grace Downing
10 weeks today since we said goodbye. My heart hurts so much. Life was unfair, you were only four. You put up a long battle, just shy of 2 years after your heart went into failure. You brought so much joy to us, you made our home a family home. I’m not sure how I’m ever going to get over the pain of saying goodbye. I’d do anything to have a cuddle at nighttime, run downstairs together for breakfast and to come home to you waiting at the other side of the door. We’re so glad we were your humans, we’ll miss you everyday Gilbs 🤍🤍
Jennifer Taylor
My little baby girl cat Ruby passed away yesterday on 24/07/25, she was only 4. I had her since she was a tiny kitten and at home it was me the 2 young kids and her alongside our older cat Gizi. It was always just us and I never pictured anything ever changing. Ruby died of natural causes such as heart failure or something related, I got a call from a neighbour saying she had died suddenly in their garden. I don’t understand why this happened to her she was such a kind, loving, gentle, precious little baby with a full white coat with black and ginger parts in the most unique places. She was also quite timid but always cuddled me and trusted me with her life, now she is gone and I couldn’t help but just look at her in her box to fully comprehend it because now I’m just lost. My other cat has not left my side and we are broken together. I will love you forever my ruby girl:(.